On the wild beach of Abou Galoum, staring at the sea and the mountain shadows of the other shore of Saudi Arabia, only one month after I took off the veil that I wear for thirteen years. I sit alone and lonely reading.
There, I came across this quote from the book of Jiddu Krishnamurti, Freedom from the Known “[…] We are always comparing what we are with what we should be. The should be is a projection of what we think we ought to be, Contradiction exists when there is comparison not only with something or someone, but with what you were yesterday, and hence there is a conflict about what has been and what is. There is what is only when there is no comparison at all, and you live with what is, is to be peaceful.”
At that moment, these words illuminated something deep in me, almost liberated me, not only from the external world judgment, that I subconsciously feared or challenged, but also and mostly from my own perspective of myself. Continue reading
If something I keep forgetting, and life keeps reminding me of, is never ever attack nor even approach anyone’ ego.
It’s a fact, whenever the one’s ego is attacked, he or she acts like a wounded animal! S/he can justify any act of violence (verbally or even physically) to him/herself towards the person who attacks them.
And in this case, I should not be this person.
So lesson for the future: however I got hurt (ego wise of course), disapointed, pissed off from anyone, I should never ever attack his or her ego.
The catholic education that I had, always urged me to confront, and to speak my mind! Out of honesty! This is a valuable virtue indeed but not in case of anger.
In anger, it is better simply to shut up, leave, move, and change position in order to cool down then think, and most probably confrontational talk will be reviewed, if not forgotten!
Attacking a person’ ego, is nothing but weakness of character. You are simply provoking the worst on them! With no particular good results! As even “good and kind” people, can be very mean in this situation! They will not come and apologize, or understand how you were wounded and embrace the situation! They simply will attack and attack harshly, by the cruelest way.
Result oriented actions people! Result oriented actions please!