I don’t remember when I had my first session of yoga, most probably from five years ago, but what I can remember is the awkwardness and the self-consciousness feelings that I had every time I moved my body. Every time I went to exercise or attended any kind of a session to exercise in order to lose weight, I had this overwhelming experience.
I have been always intimidated by my weight. It is the result of a long history of being bullied by the elders and the strangers. Throughout the years of my younger age and till the current moment, I lived many embarrassing moments and shame. For long time I avoided anything that can reflect the image of my body. Later on I started as an action of self-acceptance, to walk naked and to stare at myself in the mirrors of my room. Continue reading
This blog post below is neither based on literature nor any socio-political theories that I have read, it is the pure invention and the result of the sane/insane reflection that my poor limited mind has been developing lately. This blog is not neither a call for actions nor reactions, nor an attempt to offer alternatives. For some, these thoughts might have no clear linkage nor even a logic behind. It is ok; I don’t ask anyone to support me or to agree. This blog is simply a ventilation of an alienated free woman.
When and how it started
I am not a politics-driven person, I never understood it nor even tried to before, and I can say frankly that I am completely ignorant and illiterate when it comes to politics. However, lately it occurred to me that we as “humans” live in a big illusion called the “state” and its systems. I started to believe so once I was back from the Netherlands or even while I was living there for one year to get my Masters degree in Arts Management. Coming from the “country-of-no-system”, the chaotic Egypt, I faced daily the rigorous crushing Dutch system of functioning and living. Everything (banks’ systems, public transportation, and public life) were too organized, predicted, dictated and lived by the rules. I cannot deny that living in a system can be relieving from the daily struggle of surviving in Egypt. But with a little distance and reflection, you can easily realize that these social/public/political systems eliminate any “outsider”, “stranger” and any “non-follower” of the system. I lived there the glorious and dominating system of one of the most powerful “democratic” state of the “woohoo” very first class country of the world! Continue reading
It was back to the summer of 2009, that I recognized this reality about myself!
Back to this time I was in this famous crossroads dilemma of switching careers. By then, I gave up journalism (or to be honest the attempts to become one, once I realized that I hate this profession and I would rather develop my travel writing) and tried to gain experience in the field of Art management.
By then also I had just quit my temporary job at Al Mawred Al Thaqafy, and I couldn’t yet take the decision of going back to Alexandria or staying in Cairo and try to find another job in this challenging very underpaid field. Jobless, penniless, I got this unexpected chance to travel to the United States to attend an institute of art journalism in Washington DC. I used to apply here and there to any chance in writing or art management. This opportunity was completely and positively out of my expectation. Continue reading
قد مضى وقت طويل منذ ركبت عجلتي نظرا للحر وضيق الوقت الذي يمكن ان اركبها فيه بعد عودتي من العمل يومياَ. كان يغطيها التراب وبمجرد ركوبي عليها وجدت ان العجلة الامامية مفسية فاضطررت ان اركبها حتى آخر شارع تسعة بعد محطة المعادي وهي تفط وتنط كالمصاب بالزغطة. حتى وصلت لمكان العجلاتي.
في مدخل عمارة على بعد خطوتين من الرصيف وتحت مظلة شجرة عملاقة تظلل المدخل وتخفي هذا العالم الصغير تقع الورشة الصغيرة. وهي كما هو المتوقع من اي ورشة عجلاتي متناهية في الكركبة والقذارة. جلس امام المدخل، خارج الورشة المكدسة بالعجل والكاوتش عم “” مش عارفة اسمه ايه ” مستندا على ركبه ووجهه ذو التقاطيع النوبية منكب على عجلة الاطفال الصفراء المقلوبة امامه يصلحها.
جلست انا على جنب امام مدخل الورشة على كرسي خشبي قصير الارجل يجعل ركبي عالية عند الجلوس عليه حيث لمحت بطرف عيني عدد من شتلات الزرع موضوعة على افريز العمارة العالي الموازي وعليه وضع كيس زبالة اسود صغير لا تخطئه العين – من الاخر كنت جالسه ملاصقة للزبالة -وانفكت انظر اليه هو ومساعده الذي انكب يصلح وينفخ عجلتي.
منذ فترة وتراودني افكار غير مترابطة صًعُب علي ترتيبها او تركيبها او استخلاص منها تجربة حياتية تستحق المشاركة
الا ان ثقل هذه الافكار وترددها الغير متوقف على عقلي المنهك لا يدعني سوى ان اكتبها بطريقة او باخرى
انها عن تلك الغرف الزجاجية
تلك التي تفصلنا عن الاخرين وتلك الطبقات التي يحيط بها عقلنا حقائقنا فيغشى بها اذهاننا فنعيش سجناء اوهام وصور عن عالمنا الذي لا نعيشه بالرغم من انزراعنا به
للعلم ال “نا” في الخطاب هنا لا تعبر الا عن الياء – الا ان بعض الشعور بالرهبة من المواجهة والخجل من تعرية النفس يمنعنا\ي من الكتابة بها.
نمشي على ارض لاتلمسها ارجلنا – جذورنا مجزوزة لاتمتد في اي ارض
هناك يحيط بنا من كل صوب تلك النفوس الهشة التي ترنو الى الكمال او الاكتمال
اكتمال الصورة الشخصية امام الاخرين وقبل كل شيء امام النفس
صور – نعيش داخل صور ونرنو الى صور ونبتعد عن صور
“مثقف – غني- ذكي – متفوق – مبدع – مسالم- جدع – قوي- حذق- مهني وغيره “
مجرد خصال لصور نرسمها لانفسنا ونعيش نهذب ونكمل رتوشها ونلوي ونطوع انفيسنا لكي نبقى ما نتخيل انه هو هو.
ارهاق – انغلاق – انحباس – حدود
حدود وهم المكان والزمان
حدود وهم الوطن والدين والتربية والاخلاق
حدود عقلية وانكار وتمثيل وتطويع الروح لكي تنكمش وتنحصر في الغرف الزجاجية
This was one strange story.
I was laying down on the grace in the park, after at least four hours of wandering London’ streets, when I saw a guy in his forties approaching me. With very sad eyes and hesitant voice he asked me if I was a Muslim. Well, usually I hate these situations when I am spotted and asked about being a Muslim, especially with all the stereotypes and labels that people have in their minds regarding a Muslim woman.In addition, in fact, while travelling I like and enjoy being anonymous because I like to feel liberated from any social pressure.
Anyway, with a hasty voice I said yes and I was already getting up to leave. He apologized to bother me and asked me if a Muslim woman has to marry a Muslim? is it possible to consider a christian guy?!. this question was an additional reason to hurry up to leave the place. While picking up my stuff trying to ignore him, he asked me to advise him, he loves this Muslim woman, a doctor and he feels so miserable! he doesn’t know how to approach her, she seems very serious and she would never accept him. She is very proud and comes from a religious family, he explained. His eyes were already wet with tears, and I was so touched by his suffering.
I came back and told him “just talk to her, approach her directly, don’t spend your life wondering. You never know, may be she doesn’t care if you are Muslim or not ! what you will lose? at least you will know for sure how she feels about you and you cut the anxiety and suffering short! ”
Does it make me an alien to confess, that i don’t believe in love? I don’t believe in this commercialized, mass produced love that we long read in books and watched in movies? I simply don’t believe in it!. what a myth! what a big lie we lived seeking heart shapes, roses, white bubbles and balloons. In this park, I saw this poor stranger’ face and crying eyes. and I almost felt believing that LOVE really exists! but as we all know it is suffering, irrational and damn cruel!